Dating with Aspergers Syndrome

Dear Single Gals,

I have msn, facebook and yahoo. I have been on a few dating websites and I have received nothing and I do have aspergers syndrome and I think that may be why I have been single for that long what do you sexy girls think?

Andrew, England

Dear Andrew,

First, I have to say that it doesn't matter whether you have a disorder or not...I've been single for 5.5 years and Single Gal has been single for 3 but we're still optimistic! I mean look at Heather Mills...one leg and she married a Beatle!! (I had to use that example cause you’re from the UK). Remember that no matter what, there is always something that appeals to another, so you can't discredit yourself.

Second, I don’t know much about Aspergers syndrome or Austism, but have you ever considered dating anyone with the same disorder as you? I would think that it would definitely be less threatening knowing that other person is in the same boat.

I searched the web and there seems to be some social networking sites out there for people with similar disorders (and the girls are cute too!) – one I found was http://www.weareautism.org/. If you just type in Autism and dating…many things come up. There are also many charity sites for Autism/Aspergers that require volunteers and hold events, this may be an option to get out there and meet people.

Here are a couple links and books that may be of interest to you:

http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=10

http://ezinearticles.com/?Aspergers-and-Autism-Dating-Sites---Chat-Can-Easily-Get-You-Started-in-Finding-Your-Date&id=1544344

Autistic Guide to Dating - by Emelia Murry Ramey and Jody John Ramey

Aspergers in Love – by Maxine C. Aston


Good luck Andrew!

Single Chick

Still Single...

Dear Single Gals,

I have been single for six years can anyone help?

Andrew

Well Andrew that is a very good question. We'd probably need a little more information on you to answer this question properly, but here are a couple of suggestions anyways:

- Are you putting yourself out there? Or are you sitting in your house thinking the woman of your dreams is going to fall on your lap? Me and Single Gal both know, this will never happen. So for 2010, we have decided to get out of our comfort zone and try some random things like going to a pub to have a drink by ourselves or by playing softball in the Spring (even though we both suck).

- Do you ever get involved in Single events? There are many here in Toronto like sporting events, ski trips, speed dating etc. They must have these in England too. Try Googling “Single events London”…or wherever you are.

- What about online dating? This seems to be the way of the future as most people now are very busy and tend to set their lives up first and then try and fit someone in. The online thing can help with that, especially the EHarmony type websites that really nails down the type of person you are and the type of person you are looking for.

- Do people know you are single? Spread the word and you may get some blind dates out of it.

- Are you aggressive enough? If you see a girl who interests you, do you approach her? Here in Toronto, from our experience, men rarely approach girls and many of us really wish they would. Whether it’s at a pub, grocery store, gym or restaurant, get up the nerve and start a conversation, what’s the worse that could happen?

Take what you like from this and report back with an update, we’d love to hear about it!

Good luck,
Single Chick